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He who learns must suffer. And
even in our sleep, pain that cannot forget, falls drop by drop
upon the heart; and, in our own despair, against our will, comes
wisdom to us by the awful grace of God.
Aeschylus
 The Lament, Edward Burne-Jones
Dr. Leslie Weatherhead:
Why Do Men Suffer?
Dr. W. R. Maltby: each of us
"bears the sins of the world"
Fr. Walter Ciszek: He Leadeth Me: 23 years in Soviet
prisons
Dr. Frank Oski, professor of pediatrics:
on the suffering and death of children
Personal Statement
#3: An Introduction to The Scientific Evidence for The AfterLife:
"I'm not allowed to tell you too much about what it's like
over here, because some of you might try to end your mortal lives
just to get here a little faster"
Personal Statement
#28: Love In The AfterLife: The Perfect Storm of Ultimate Human Suffering:
Exploring Cosmic Meaning in Separation from a Soulmate Lover: Making
Your Music Pure
Personal Statement
#30: Anger: the Soul's Blinding, the Ego's Cry of Resistance:
How We Fail to Recognize
the Loves of Our Lives: My Friendship with Carolyn Kuhn
Sperle
Personal Statement
#31: Finding Healing
From Religious Abuse: The Nature of Authentic Spiritual
Authority: What I Learned From Father John Kuhn
Personal
Statement #33: Love In The AfterLife: The Story of The Fish and
The Crab: Twin-Soul Love
and The Purging Fire: Freedom, Only In This Case, I Covet
Not: Loving According To Each Other's Liking
Personal Statement
#34: What You Need To
Know Before You Die: How Your Religious Beliefs Can Hurt You
For Hundreds Of Years To Come: How I Helped A Departed Relative,
Trapped In Fears Of Judgment, To Go To The Light
Personal
Statement #36: The
Death of The Great False Self: Nothing Left To Lose After
Losing You: Developing Your Psychic Abilities, Understanding
Mysteries, Becoming Love Itself
Personal
Statement #42: The Fear
of Death and the Meaning of Judgment in the AfterLife: We
Cannot Escape our Responsibility to Unfold the Spirit, to Evolve as
a Soul, to Love Ourselves! I'm not afraid
of dying, but I am afraid of losing you!
Personal
Statement #46: Love In The AfterLife: Romance at the Pinnacle of
Existence! The Ultimate Dualistic-Halves of Eternal Twin-Soul Love!
Why Your Deepest Yearning
is the Voice of the Universe Proclaiming Its Truest Cosmic
Message! I will love no other! no
other!
Personal
Statement #63: Love In The AfterLife: Summerland: Where Dreams
Come True, Part II: How You
Will Yet Find Healing from the Devastating Losses of this
World! Long, long shall I rue thee,
too deeply to tell
Personal Statement
#66: Imprimatur! Let it be printed! A Priest Speaks Out from The AfterLife!
The Testimony of Father Robert Benson
Personal Statement #67:
The
Nature of Evil! Would you recognize it if you met, on the
street, or in the mirror?

John Keats: "Call the world if you please, 'the
Vale of Soul Making,' then you will find out the use of the world."
Walter M. Miller, A
Canticle For Leibowitz: "Why don't you forgive God for allowing
pain? If He didn't allow it, human courage, bravery, nobility, and
self-sacrifice would all be meaningless things."
H. G. Wells, The Time
Machine: "I grieved to think how brief the
dream of the human intellect had been. It had committed suicide. It
had set itself steadfastly towards comfort and ease, a balanced
society with security and permanency as its watchword, it had
attained its hopes - to come to this at last... absolute safety...
And a great quiet had followed." Observations of The Time Traveler
regarding the mankind of A.D. 800,000 which had apparently succeeded
in removing all risk and danger from life.
Richard Bach: "What the caterpillar calls the
end of the world, the master calls a butterfly."
Buckminster Fuller: "There is nothing in a
caterpillar that tells you it's going to be a butterfly."
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Linda Ronstadt, Long Long
Time
"Love will abide, take things in
stride, Sounds like good advice but there's no one at my side,
And time washes clean love's wounds unseen, That's what
someone told me but I don't know what it means... I can't say you hurt me
when you never let me near, And I never drew one response from
you, All the while you fell all over girls you never
knew ... And life's full of flaws, Who knows the cause? Living in the memory of a
love that never was... Cause I've done everything I
know to try and make you mine, And I think I'm gonna love you
for a long long time..." |
Editor's note: See myPersonal Statement
#28: Love In The AfterLife: The Perfect Storm of Ultimate Human Suffering:
Exploring Cosmic Meaning in Separation from a Soulmate Lover: Making
Your Music Pure
Viktor Frankl, Man's Search for
Meaning: "I had wanted simply to convey to the reader by way of
concrete example that life holds a potential meaning under any
conditions, even the most miserable ones. And I thought that if the
point were demonstrated in a situation as extreme as that in a
concentration camp, my book might gain a hearing. I therefore felt
responsible for writing down what I had gone through, for I thought
it might be helpful to people who are prone to despair." Even in the
degradation and misery of a concentration camp, Frankl was able to
exercise the most important freedom of all -- the freedom to
determine one's own attitude and spiritual well-being. No Nazi guard
was able to control the inner-life of Frankl's soul. Also, he
witnessed that those who had nothing to live for died most quickly.
Abraham Lincoln Consoles Mrs. Lydia Bixby
regarding her loss of five sons:
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Executive Mansion
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Washington, Nov. 21, 1864
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To Mrs. Bixby, Boston,
Mass.
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Dear Madam,
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I have been shown in the files of the War
Department a statement of the Adjutant General of Massachusetts
that you are the mother of five sons who have died gloriously on
the field of battle. I feel how weak and fruitless must be any
word of mine which should attempt to beguile you from the grief of
a loss so overwhelming. But I cannot refrain from tendering you
the consolation that may be found in the thanks of the republic
they died to save. I pray that our Heavenly Father may assuage the
anguish of your bereavement, and leave you only the cherished
memory of the loved and lost, and the solemn pride that must be
yours to have laid so costly a sacrifice upon the altar of
freedom.
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Yours very sincerely and
respectfully,
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A. Lincoln
Aeschylus, Agamemnon: "Zeus has led us
on to know, the Helmsmen lays it down as law that we must suffer,
suffer into truth."
Charles de Foucauld: "Our difficulties are not
a transitory state of affairs... No, they are the normal state of
affairs and we should reckon on being angustia temporum ['in
straightness of times,' Dan. 9:21] all our lives, so far as the good
we want to do is concerned."
C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves: "We were
made for God... By loving Him more than [our loved ones] we shall
love them more than we now [in this life] do. But all that is far
away in 'the land of the Trinity,' not here in exile, in the weeping
valley. Down here it is all loss and renunciation.The very purpose
of the bereavement ... may have been to force this upon us [i.e.
that we were made for God]. We are then compelled to try to believe,
what we cannot yet feel, that God is our true Beloved."
Corrie Ten Boom, The Hiding Place, 30
years after her ordeal in a Nazi death camp, offers her thoughts on
the purpose of suffering: "Some questions remain -- but they are not
to be feared. Our Heavenly Father holds all things in his hands,
even our questions... No pit is so deep that He is not deeper still.
With Jesus -- even in our darkest moments -- the best remains, and
the very best is yet to be."
Unknown: "A diamond is all the more brilliant
against a backdrop of black."
Gen. Douglas MacArthur, Reminiscences:
"Never in history had a nation and its people been more completely
crushed than were the Japanese people... Their entire faith in the
Japanese way of life ... perished in the agony of their total
defeat... It left a complete vacuum, morally, mentally, and
physically. And into this vacuum flowed the democratic way of life."
Lessons from the book of Job, from the notes of
Malcolm Smith: Job did not curse God when his troubles began, even
said God could do more to him.Though Job did not understand much of
what was happening, he believed God to be righteous, that He would
have a good reason for allowing calamities. In suffering we can
affirm the goodness, the righteousness of God. We show that we do
not serve God merely for the "hedge," as Satan claimed. We give
glory to God in our suffering by praising him. God could have
created our world differently.The fact that he did not suggests that
there is no other way consistent with our long term good. "Does Job
serve God for nothing?" Satan’s sneer at the story’s beginning is
the key question of the entire book. Satan implied that we "love"
God only because he gives many good things, a kind of bribery. God
asked Job and the three friends many questions as if to say, "If you
can’t understand how I manage the physical creation, why do you
think that you could understand the spiritual realm? Creating the
stars was the easy part, I spoke them into existence. Preparing man
for eternity is something else."
Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche: “What does not
destroy me makes me stronger.”
Winston Churchill: “If you're going through
hell, keep going.”
Paula Poundstone: "The wages of sin are death;
but by the time taxes are taken out, it's just sort of a bad
feeling."
Eric Hoffer: "Not actual suffering but the hope
of better things incites people to revolt."
Dinah Shore: "Trouble is part of your life, and
if you don't share it, you don't give the person who loves you a
chance to love you enough."
Mark Twain, from his notebook: "If I were going
to construct a God I would furnish Him with some ways and qualities
and characteristics which the Present (Bible) One lacks.... He would
spend some of His eternities in trying to forgive Himself for making
man unhappy when He could have made him happy with the same effort
and He would spend the rest of them in studying astronomy."
Greek proverb: "It is not good for all our
wishes to be filled; through sickness we recognize the value of
health; through evil, the value of good; through hunger, the value
of food; through exertion, the value of rest."
John Tillotson: "Though all afflictions are
evils in themselves, yet they are good for us, because they discover
to us our disease and tend to our cure."
C.S. Lewis, The Problem of Pain: The
problem of pain defined: "If God were good, He would wish to make
His creatures perfectly happy, and if God were almighty, He would be
able to do what He wished. But the creatures are not happy.
Therefore God lacks either goodness, or power, or both." This is the
problem of pain, in its simplest form. The possibility of answering
it depends on showing that the terms 'good' and 'almighty,' and
perhaps also the term 'happy' are equivocal: for it must be admitted
from the outset that if the popular meanings attached to these words
are the best, or the only possible, meanings, then the argument is
unanswerable."
C.S. Lewis, The Problem of Pain: "No
doubt Pain as God's megaphone is a terrible instrument; it may lead
to final and unrepented rebellion. But it gives the only opportunity
the bad man can have for amendment. It removes the veil; it plants
the flag of truth within the fortress of a rebel soul. If the first
and lowest operation of pain shatters the illusion that all is well,
the second shatters the illusion that what we have, whether good or
bad in itself, is our own and enough for us. Everyone has noticed
how hard it is to turn our thoughts to God when everything is going
well with us. We 'have all we want' is a terrible saying when 'all'
does not include God. We find God an interruption. As St. Augustine
says somewhere, 'God wants to give us something, but cannot, because
our hands are full--there's nowhere for Him to put it.' Or as a
friend of mine said, 'We regard God as an airman regards his
parachute; it's there for emergencies but he hopes he'll never have
to use it.' Now God who has made us, knows what we are and that our
happiness lies in Him. Yet we will not seek it in Him as long as He
leaves us any other resort where it can even plausibly be looked
for. While what we call 'our own life' remains agreeable we will not
surrender it to Him. What then can God do in our interests but make
'our own life' less agreeable to us, and take away the plausible
sources of false happiness? It is just here, where God's providence
seems at first to be most cruel, that the Divine humility, the
stooping down of the highest , most deserves praise. We are
perplexed to see misfortune falling upon decent, inoffensive, worthy
people--on capable, hard-working mothers of families or diligent,
thrifty little trades-people on those who have worked so hard, and
so honestly, for their modest stock of happiness and now seem to be
entering on the enjoyment of it with the fullest right.... Let me
implore the reader to try to believe, if only for the moment, that
God, who made these deserving people, may really be right when He
thinks that their modest prosperity and the happiness of their
children are not enough to make them blessed: that all this must
fall from them in the end, and that if they have not learned to know
Him they will be wretched. And therefore He troubles them, warning
them in advance of an insufficiency that one day they will have to
discover. The life to themselves and their families stands between
them and the recognition of their need; He makes that life less
sweet to them."
Leslie Weatherhead, The Christian
Agnostic: "While this is not yet the best of all possible
worlds, it may be the world of best possibilities... It is
impossible for us at our infant stage of development to get the
suffering of the world-which has made so many men disbelieve in
God-into the right proportion. I have sometimes imagined a mass
meeting of toddlers with a chairman aged five. I imagine an angry
discussion in which speakers prove that there cannot be love at the
heart of their homes. It is alleged by one speaker after another
that parents allow the existence of cats with sharp claws, furniture
and dinner knives with sharp edges, paths covered with sharp gravel.
How can love be said to rule when a toddler is put into a home
situation carrying so many evidences that either parents don't care
or they have no power to alter things? 'Look at my cut knees,' says
the chairman, adjusting his bib. 'Look at the scratch on my hand,
and I only meant to play with the cat'! In exactly this spirit,
believing himself to have grown up, Richard Robinson writes, 'A god
who was all-powerful but left much misery in the world would not be
all-benevolent. An all benevolent god in a world containing much
misery would not be an all-powerful god. A world containing a god
who was both all-powerful and all-benevolent would contain no
misery. Here, then, we have a mathematical proof bearing on a common
religious doctrine. Anyone who is confident that he frequently came
across misery in the world may conclude with equal confidence that
there is no such thing as an all-powerful and all-benevolent god.
And this mathematically disposes of official Christianity." Exit
Christianity!! I must remind Mr. Robinson, in familiar words, that
the Christian religion is 'an anvil which has broken many hammers'
and his so-called 'mathematical proof' is inadequate to banish the
faith of a believer, even when he suffers. I believe that one day we
shall view the suffering that now appalls us, as now we view the
sufferings of our childhood."
Channing: "Even in evil, that dark cloud which
hands over the creation, we discern rays of light and hope, and
gradually come to see, in suffering and temptation, proofs and
instruments of the sublimest purposes of wisdom and love."
Nathaniel Hawthorne, The Scarlet
Letter: "There was no other attribute that so much impressed
her with a sense of new and untransmitted vigour in Pearl's nature,
as this never failing vivacity of spirits... It was certainly a
doubtful charm, imparting a hard, metallic lustre to the child's
character. She wanted -- what some people want throughout life -- a
grief that should deeply touch her, and thus humanise and make her
capable of sympathy. But there was time enough yet for little
Pearl."
W. Somerset Maugham (1874-1965): "To acquire
the habit of reading is to construct for yourself a refuge from
almost all of the miseries of life."
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The death of his young bride, shortly
after their marriage, threw Wyatt Earp into a period of deep
depression and disillusionment. In May 1871, before recovering
himself, Wyatt was arrested and charged with horse stealing in
Arkansas, but he skipped bail and was never tried for the
offense. |
Wyatt Earp, the movie: Rescuing his son from
depression and drunkeness, Wyatt's father speaks about the untimely
death of Wyatt's young wife: "Do you think that
you're the first man to lose someone? That's what life is all about
- loss!"
Muhammad Ali, after his defeat by Leon Spinks,
Feb. 17, 1978 (a fight, purportedly, the inspiration for the movie,
Rocky): "We all lose in life. You lose your wife, you lose your
mother. We all have losses, and what you have to do is keep living,
overcome those losses and come back. You can't just go and die
because you lose... Of all the fights I lost, losing to Spinks hurt
the most. That's because it was my fault... I didn't train
right."
Hermann Hesse: "You know quite well, deep
within you, that there is only a single magic, a single power, a
single salvation... and that is called loving. Well, then, love your
suffering. Do not resist it, do not flee from it. It is your
aversion that hurts, nothing else."
John 13: 31, 34, Authorized Version: "When
[Judas] was gone out, Jesus said, Now is the Son of Man glorified...
love one another, as I have loved you."
I Peter 2: 23, 24; 4: 19, J.B. Phillips
translation: "... when [Jesus] was insulted he offered no insult in
return. When he suffered he made no threats of revenge. He simply
committed his cause to the One who judges fairly... those who suffer
... can safely commit their souls to their faithful Creator, and go
on doing all the good they can."
This colorful image [left] from the
Hubble Space Telescope shows the collision of two gases near a dying
star 450 light-years from Earth in the constellation Aquarius.
Astronomers have dubbed the tadpole-like objects [enlargement on the
right] "cometary knots" because their glowing heads and gossamer
tails resemble comets. Each gaseous head is at
least twice the size of our solar system; each tail stretches 100
billion miles, about 1,000 times the Earth's distance to the
Sun. Astronomers theorize that the gaseous "heads" are the results
of a collision between gases. The doomed star spews the hot gas from
its surface, which collides with the cooler gas that it had ejected
10,000 years before. (This image was taken in August, 1994 with
Hubble's Wide Field Planetary Camera 2.)
Sir Oliver Lodge, Raymond: Sir Oliver
Lodge, one of the most famous British scientists of the early 20th
century, lost his son Raymond during WWI. Lodge devoted much of his
remaining years to the study of the afterlife. The following quote
is seance-testimony from one on the Other Side: "I lived a selfish life: a good life, but a selfish
one, though I didn't know it then. I isolated myself and did not mix
with people, not even with family life. When I go over, I find it
was a negative goodness, so then I wanted to help humanity, because
I hadn't helped it. I had not taken on the sufferings even of a
family man. It was useless. And so that is why I came back to ...
try to bear through him the sorrows of the world. It is through
suffering that humanity is helped. That is one great thing... the
sacrifice of Jesus. He demonstrated eternity, but to do it He must
be sacrificed and taste death. So all who teach the high ... must
tread the same path; there's no escaping the crucifixion, it comes
in one way or another...Out of it will come much joy, much happiness
to others."
Sir Oliver Lodge, Raymond: "The
Christian conception; not of a God apart from His creatures, looking
on, taking no personal interest in their behaviour, sitting aloof
only to judge them; but One who anxiously takes measures for their
betterment, takes trouble, takes pains--a pregnant phrase, takes
pains--One who suffers when they go wrong, One who feels painfully
the miseries and wrongdoings and sins and cruelties of the creatures
whom He has endowed with free will; One who actively enters into the
storm and the conflict; One who actually took flesh and dwelt among
us, to save us from the slough into which we might have fallen, to
show us what the beauty and dignity of man might be."
Zoroaster: "Thus spoke the Devil to me
once, Even God has his hell: it is his love for man."
Aeschylus (525-456 BC), Agamemnon
179-183: "He who learns must suffer. And even in our sleep, pain
that cannot forget, falls drop by drop upon the heart, and in our
own despair, against our will, comes wisdom to us by the awful grace
of God."
Aeschylus: "There is no pain so great as the
memory of joy in present grief."
Dr. Leslie Weatherhead, His Life and
Ours: "I believe most assuredly that either
on this side of death or the other there will come to every human
spirit an hour when God calls up all the resources of the
personality; assets which He has been guarding jealously all the
years; when everything suffered, everything borne, everything
overcome, every talent, every bit of character, everything we now
dream we might become, will be used, mobilised and dedicated to some
high purpose, a purpose which is the only reason why we ever emerged
from that infinite source of personality from which, by the method
of human birth, we were drawn as water from a well."
Silver Birch: "The Great
Spirit is infinite love and nothing happens in the whole universe
without His knowledge. All suffering automatically brings its own
reward because it touches the soul and, in doing so, gives it a
greater awareness of the higher, deeper and more profound aspects of
the universe... Your world does not understand the function of pain
and suffering and difficulty and hardship, but all these play an
important part in the evolution of the human spirit. Look back in
your own lives and see that often the greatest crises, the difficult
problems, the darkest hours, were the stepping stones that led to
greater understanding. You would not evolve if forever you dwelt in
the sunshine, lived free from care, anxiety and worry, where every
approaching difficulty was automatically smoothed out so that it
never touched you, where there were no rough stones for your
pathway, where there was nothing for you to conquer. It is in the
facing of, and rising supreme over, trouble that you grow... In the
great universe where harmony is the law, each one of you contributes
to the plan. The events in your lives, sometimes of bitterness and
despair, of pain and misery, all play their part in preparing the
soul gradually for the path that is being trodden... The darkness
and the light, the shadow and sunshine, are all but reflections of
one whole. Without shadow there could be no light and without light
there could be no shadow. The difficulties of life are steps which
enable the soul to rise. Difficulties, obstacles, handicaps -- these
are the trials of the soul. And when it conquers them all, it rises
stronger, more purified, deepened in intensity and more highly
evolved. Do you think that the latent powers of the soul, infinite
in their possibilities of expression, could realize themselves
without difficulty and pain, without shadow, without sorrow, and
without suffering and misery? Of course not. The joy and the
laughter can only be enjoyed to the full when once you have drained
the cup of sorrow to the dregs, for as low as you can fall in the
scale of life so correspondingly you can rise. The more you have
tasted and experienced that which seems the shadow of earthly life,
the more you will appreciate, because of it, the greater joys of the
sunshine. Your experiences are all part of your evolution. One day,
freed from the trammels of flesh, with eyes not clouded by matter,
you will look back in retrospect and view the life you have lived on
earth. And out of the jigsaw of all the events, you will see how
every piece fits into its allotted place, how every experience was a
lesson to quicken the soul and to enable it to have greater
understanding of its possibilities. There is no experience that
comes to the human soul, which, rightly understood and rightly
faced, does not leave you better for it. Can you contemplate a world
of matter where there were no difficulties, no trials, no troubles,
no pain, no suffering? There would be no evolution. There would be
nothing to surmount. You would decay."
The Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of
the Ring, the movie: Frodo: "I wish the ring had never come to
me. I wish none of this had happened." Gandalf: "So do all who live
to see such times -- but that is not for them to decide; all you
have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to you."
Anne Spencer Morrow Lindbergh: "I do not
believe that sheer suffering teaches. If suffering alone taught, all
the world would be wise, since everyone suffers. To suffering must
be added mourning, understanding, patience, love, openness and the
willingness to remain vulnerable."
Sir Oliver Lodge, Raymond: "The
Universe is a flux, it is a becoming, it is a progress. Evolution is
a reality. True and not imaginary progress is possible. Effort is
not a sham. Existence is a true adventure. There is a real risk.
There was a real risk about creation--directly it went beyond the
inert and mechanical. The granting of choice and free will involved
a risk. Thenceforward things could go wrong. They might be kept
right by main force, but that would not be playing the game, that
would not be loyalty to the conditions. As William James says: A
football team desires to get a ball to a certain spot, but that is
not all they desire; they wish to do it under certain conditions and
overcome inherent difficulties -- else might they get up in the
night and put it there. So also we may say, Good is the end and aim
of the Divine Being; but not without conditions. Not by compulsion.
Perfection as of machinery would be too dull and low an achievement
-- something much higher is sought. The creation of free creatures
who, in so far as they go right, do so because they will, not
because they must -- that was the Divine problem, and it is the
highest of which we have any conception. Yes, there was a real risk
in making a human race on this planet. Ultimate good was not
guaranteed. Some parts of the Universe must be far better than this,
but some may be worse. Some planets may comparatively fail. The
power of evil may here and there get the upper hand: although it
must ultimately lead to suicidal destructive failure, for evil is
pregnant with calamity."

Ground Zero
Jim Croce, Tomorrow's Gonna Be A Brighter Day:
"... nobody ever had a rainbow, Baby, until he had the rain..."
John Overton Choules, August 12, 1843: "The
glories of Christianity in England are to be traced in the
sufferings of confessors and martyrs in the sixteenth and
seventeenth centuries; and it was under the influence of Christian
principles, imbibed at this very period, that the Mayflower brought
over the band of Pilgrims to Plymouth... We should never forget that
the prison, the scaffold, and the stake were stages in the march of
civil and religious liberty which our forefathers had to travel, in
order that we might attain our present liberty."
Ann Landers: "The poor wish to rich; the rich
wish to be happy; the single wish to be married; and the married
wish to be dead."
The Association, Cherish: "...you
don't know how many times I wish that I had told you..."
William Butler Yeats: "But O that I were young
again And held her in my arms!"
Gary McClain, Idiot's Guide to Zen
Living: "Dukkha is the Sanskrit word for suffering or, more
generally, that deep feeling of discontent, dissatisfaction,
restlessness, unfulfilled desire and want that so often
characterizes human existence... Suffering is caused by desire.
Desire is wanting something you don't have... [Enlightenment reduces
suffering by reducing desire; this comes about by a realization that
we, within ourselves, already have a measure of important things.]
Dukkha isn't easy to ignore. It keeps hounding us, following us
around like a stray dog [Why are certain feelings of suffering so
strong? Because the precipitating suffering-event seemed to be such
a large loss to you] ... Dukkha makes us misperceive reality. We get
so caught up in our own heads that we have no idea what is really
going on. [We imagine things, we feel threatened unnecessarily,
causing us to be angry and depressed.] ... To live means to
experience suffering ... So you have to be alone because your
marriage didn't work ... So you have to exchange information with
the person whose car you just hit. Nobody likes these things ...
Being human means experiencing unpleasantness. How you handle these
bad things (bad being a relative term) is what causes your
suffering, not the bad thing itself... Let the [suffering] go. This
means waking up to your life and true nature again and again and
again, as many times as it takes. The better you become at foiling
dukkha and living by dharma [reality], or the truth of your own
nature, the more glimmers [of what's real] you'll get... [Suffering
needs to be seen as something separate from one's true self. When we
are hurting we should acknowledge dukkha, but then let it go. We
should say: 'There's that dukkha feeling again' as we acknowledge
that suffering is normal for all of us -- but it doesn't have to
overcome us.]" Editor's note: The sense of detachment engendered by
suffering is well expressed in the inscription on Kazantzakis' tomb
in Heraklion, Greece: "I hope for nothing. I fear nothing. I am
free."
Louise Bogan: "I cannot believe that the
inscrutable universe turns on an axis of suffering; surely the strange beauty of the world must somewhere
rest on pure joy!"
Geri Larkin, Stumbling Toward
Enlightenment: "Just when we start to be able to see clearly
... we discover that behind our anger -- which we thought we had
faced just fine, thank you very much - is rage... So let go of your
rage... Forgive.... Let your own inherent gentleness free you."

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A sandal and prayer beads lie in
a pool of blood outside a mosque after a suicide bombing in central
Baghdad, April 7,
2006
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Jose Feliciano, The Last Thing On My
Mind:
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It's a lesson too late for the learnin', made
of sand, made of sand; In the wink of an eye my soul is turnin',
in your hand, in your hand ... You got reasons a'plenty for goin',
this I know, this I know; for the weeds have been stead'ly
growin', - please don't go, please don't go. Are you going away
with no word of farewell? Will there be not a trace left behind?
Well, I could have loved you better, I didn't
mean to be unkind, You know that was the last thing on my mind
Laurel Duran, NDE reporter: “What I experienced
was a complete union with God - complete, unconditional love,” she
said. “All of the burdens I had on Earth dissolved into nothing...
Everything that happens during our life on Earth is purposeful ...
not random.”
Barry & Robin Gibb, How Do You Mend A
Broken Heart?: "...I could never see tomorrow, but I was never
told about the sorrow..."
Helen Reddy, I Am Woman: "Oh, yes, I
am wise, But it's wisdom born of pain, Yes, I've paid the price, But
look how much I gained -- If I have to, I can do anything..."
Arthur Miller, The Ride Down Mount
Morgan: "Maybe all one can do is hope to end up with the right
regrets."
Hank Williams, I'm So Lonesome I Could
Cry:
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Hear that lonesome whippoorwill He sounds too blue to fly
The midnight
train is whining low I'm so lonesome I could cry I've never seen a night
so long When
time goes crawling by The moon just went behind the clouds
To hide its
face and cry Did you ever see a robin weep? When leaves begin to die
Like me,
he's lost the will to live I'm so lonesome I could cry The
silence of a falling star Lights up a purple sky And
as I wonder where you are I'm so lonesome I could cry
Gordon Lightfoot, Rainy Day People:
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Rainy day people always seem to know when
it’s time to call Rainy day people don’t talk, they just listen
till they’ve heard it all Rainy day lovers don’t lie when they tell ’ya
they’ve been down like you Rainy day people don’t mind if you’re cryin’
a tear or two If you get lonely, all you really need is
that rainy day love Rainy day people all know there’s no sorrow
they can’t rise above Rainy day lovers don’t love any others, that
would not be kind Rainy day people all know how it hangs on a
piece of mind Rainy day lovers don’t lie when they tell
you, they’ve been down there too Rainy day people don’t mind if you’re cryin’
a tear or two. Rainy day people always seem to know when
you’re feeling blue High steppin' strutters
who land in the gutters sometimes need one too Take it or leave it, or
try to believe it If you’ve been down too long Rainy day lovers don’t
hide love inside they just pass it on Rainy day lovers don’t hide love
inside they just pass it on
M. Scott Peck: "The truth is that our finest
moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply
uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such
moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out
of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer
answers."
John Adams: “My daughter [marrying unwisely]
and Charles [his son, suffering from alcoholism] bring down my gray
hairs with sorrow to the grave. The daughter, without a fault.
Unfortunate daughter! Unhappy child!”
Frederic W. H. Myers, Vanishing Night,
transmitted to Juliet S. Goodenow, 1923: "It is not so much what you
will find when you come to this side of life as what you will bring
with you... Sleep is the best definition of death I know anything
about -- just going to sleep unafraid to awake in a new and
beautiful room, and to be satisfied. This is all there is... [On
Earth] you are the apprentice to your own soul. Here you are the
promoted individual... Bring all of your soul treasures -- you will
need them, your culture, your love of art, of music -- all this you
will use... Every want shall be satisfied. Material possessions you
will not need... We are undisguised, for on our foreheads is the
insignia of whatever we have gained in culture, love for humanity,
charity, selflessness, energy and force, ambitions for the sake of
others -- all this is here waiting for us when we are given ... our
Price, our Wage, whatever we have earned during our years of
apprenticeship."

Viktor Frankl, Man's Search for
Meaning: Recounting an Auschwitz experience: "We stumbled on in
the darkness, over big stones and through large puddles, along the
one road running through the camp. The accompanying guards kept
shouting at us and driving us with the butts of their rifles... But
my mind clung to my wife's image, imagining it with an uncanny
acuteness. I heard her answering me, saw her smile, her frank and
encouraging look... for the first time in my life I saw the truth as
it is set into song by so many poets, proclaimed as the final wisdom
by so many thinkers. The truth - that love is the ultimate and the
highest goal to which man can aspire. Then I grasped the meaning of
the greatest secret that human poetry and human thought and belief
have to impart: The salvation of man is through love and in love. I
understood how a man who has nothing left in this world may still
know bliss, be it only for a brief moment, in the contemplation of
his beloved. In a position of utter desolation, when a man cannot
express himself in positive action, when his only achievement may
consist in enduring his sufferings in the right way - an honorable
way - in such a position man can, through loving contemplation of
the image he carries of his beloved, achieve fulfillment... I
resumed talk with my loved one: I asked her questions, and she
answered; she questioned me in return, and I answered." [Frankl
would later discover that his beloved, at this point, had already
been killed in the death camps.]
Robert Schwartz, Courageous Souls:
"Though these roles were chosen and agreed upon before birth, the
enactment of the plan still creates painful feelings of loss... As
the spirit guides advised [one who had lost a loved one], 'say I'm
going to cry until I have no more tears. Then cry some more.' The
guides know that pain suppressed is pain unhealed."
Kelly Pavese:
REGRET
Regret is stifling, a killing of
soul For its paralyzing grip will take its crass toll. To
dwell on those actions wished never been taken Neglects in God's
eyes we shall not be forsaken. Regret is a time warp of life in the past It
can rob a man's future and diminish it, fast. Just as ill health
can hinder activity, A life of regret keeps soul in
captivity.

Herman's Hermits, Silhouettes On The
Shade
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Took a walk past
your house, late last night, all the shades were pulled and drawn,
way down tight, from within the dim light cast two silhouettes on
the shade, oh, what a lovely couple they made! put his arms around
your waist, held you tight, kisses I could almost taste, in the
night, wondered why I'm not the guy whose silhouette's on the
shade, I couldn't hide the tears in my eyes... lost control and
rang your bell, I was sore, let me in or else I'll beat down your
door...
6-21-10: The wisdom of Spirit often
speaks to us in unpredictable, unorthodox, but artful, even,
synchronistic, ways - such are the sublime teaching devices of the
Troubadours (P.S. #37).
For a long time, I've liked Peter Noone's voice of melodic pureness,
and his efforts here; but, strangely, even when I was a young teen -
that dark time for me, without prom-attendance, without girlfriend,
"without pink carnation, but with a pickup truck" (P.S. #33) - this song
would immediately send me into severe emotional downward spiral;
unremittingly, it still does. Sometimes, even children can sense a
foreshadowing, a certain foreboding, that inexorable, undeterred,
arrival of imminent Loss. Our world seems to be a kind of game, but
one designed by the gambling commission, wherein no player, if he or
she plays long enough, can ever win. Can the Losses of our world be
remedied? See my Personal
Statement #63: Love In The AfterLife: Summerland: Where Dreams
Come True, Part II: How You
Will Yet Find Healing from the Devastating Losses of this
World! Long, long shall I rue thee,
too deeply to tell
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I do
not believe that sheer suffering teaches. If suffering alone
taught, all the world would be wise, since everyone suffers. To
suffering must be added mourning, understanding, patience, love,
openness and the willingness to remain vulnerable.
Anne Spencer Morrow Lindbergh
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